Pointed out that the `` confession of love '' `` I like you, please go out with me '' is a unique culture in some countries including Japan
When you are dating as a couple or want to deepen your relationship with marriage in mind, it is common to make a 'confession of love' such as 'I love you, please go out with me' or 'go out with me on the premise of marriage.' I have an image. However, such 'confession' is a unique culture in some countries, including Japan
Kokuhaku: Japan's Love Confessing Culture
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Kokuhaku: Japan's Love Confessing Culture (2013) | Hacker News
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Mr. Suzuki is a Japanese language researcher living in Canada and said that he encountered a little trouble when he said 'I love you' when he was just dating his husband from Canada. According to Suzuki, in Western cultures, the word 'love' is an important word in English, and some people react that it shouldn't be used too lightly. However, in Japan, when starting a deep relationship, in most cases, it starts with a 'love confession' such as 'I love you. Can we start seeing each other?'. Mr. Suzuki points out that it is unique to Japanese culture that until this 'confession of love,' even if the two of them go out together or spend time at an event together, strictly speaking, the relationship has not started. I'm here.
Suzuki describes the Japanese 'confession of love' as 'like a switch.' The reason why you can't even touch your hands even if your relationship deepens is because you need a switch called 'confession', and when the switch is turned on, you can enter 'deep relationship mode'. Also, if you confess your love and formally go out with another person, it is considered 'cheating' if you have a deep relationship with another person. It is
The 'confession of love' system may seem a little strange compared to Western cultures, where relationships naturally develop. However, Mr. Suzuki said, ``I think this system will help clarify the relationship from the beginning and make it easier to start dating. You don't have to spend an embarrassing moment with it.'
Hacker News has several opinions including actual experiences about the 'love confession culture' pointed out by Mr. Suzuki. A person who has traveled to Japan many times and stayed for a long time said, 'I like confession because it clears up most of the ambiguity in the other person's actions and feelings, and it allows me to express my feelings clearly. I also like that they understand that we don't act like a couple until we agree to be a couple, which
In addition, there are opinions that ``confession is a better method'' because it allows you to develop potential invisible relationships step by step, and opinions that it is fun because it is a date with various relationships, so I don't think formal things are preferable. However, as a result, it is said that 'Japanese culture is interesting.'
In addition, it is pointed out that starting a relationship with a confession of love is rare in Western culture, but not unique to Japan, and that it once existed in European nomadic lifestyles. In addition to the comments that points of view exist, Brazilian culture has something called 'namorar', which means 'whether or not you will be an exclusive couple' weeks or months after dating, before going on a first date. Some people say that it is very similar to the confession culture in Japan, although they do not declare it.
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