Research results that couples with a lot of working memory are 'hard to break even if they fight'

There are always fights in love and marriage, but an experiment in which 101 newlywed couples participated confirmed that 'a couple with a lot of working memory (work area) can easily overcome problems'.

Romantic partners' working memory capacity facilitates relationship problem resolution through recollection of problem-relevant information.-- PsycNET
https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2019-40707-001

How Research on Working Memory Can Improve Your Romantic Relationship-Scientific American
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-research-on-working-memory-can-improve-your-romantic-relationship/

According to a 1992 survey , more than 90% of couples said they had a quarrel, and more than half quarreled at least once a month. It was said that these quarrels were due to 'differences' in financial sense and sex.

To explore the relationship between working memory and whether couples can overcome common issues such as disagreement, a research group such as Levi Baker, a psychologist at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro, conducted an experiment on 101 couples. The we. It was said that the couple who participated in the experiment was less than 3 months old from the marriage, and the sexual orientation of the couple was 93 heterosexual couples, 7 lesbians, and 1 gay couple. Working memory is a memory area of the brain that temporarily stores information about cognitive tasks.

In the experiment, a test was first conducted to measure the working memory of each couple. Next, the couple discussed 'the problem that can be solved by changing the behavior of each other' for 8 minutes, and evaluated the 'severity of the problem' before and after the discussion. Finally, the couple separated into separate rooms and were instructed to remember the content of the discussion and responded in as much detail as possible about what they said.

The research group sent e-mail to the subjects 4 and 8 months after the couple discussed the issue, and asked them to explain what the 'severity of the problem' was. The severity of the problem was reduced.' We also know that couples with a lot of working memory were able to more accurately recall their remarks when asked about their content after discussing the issue.

In order to eliminate factors other than working memory, tests were conducted on experiments such as self-control, resistance to pain, and emotional control, but these were all unrelated to the severity of the problem. The research group admitted that the effects of cognitive abilities that were not tested, such as reasoning abilities, were not excluded, but said, ``Because of the large amount of working memory, the content of discussions was smoothly transferred to long-term memory. Is likely to have contributed to the solution of the problem.'

David Hambrick, a professor of psychology at Michigan State University in an article in the American American scientific journal Scientific American, said, ``Forgot a few seconds after hearing someone's name. I think I've had an experience that I wasn't interested in the person, so I wasn't able to transfer my working memory memory to long-term memory. It may not be remembered, but the bad news is that if you don't remember exactly what the other person said, you'll only remember what's convenient for you, and you'll make false memories.' Pointed out.

For a long-lasting relationship with a partner, read: 'When you have an important conversation with your lover, it's important to listen closely to what the other person said and to help both parties focus on the conversation. I should choose when I'm relaxed, I'm not drinking, and I'm in a good environment.”