'Keeping people away from happiness' learned by a psychiatrist who has been listening to the voice of 'unhappy people' for 30 years


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The question 'what makes people happy?' Is the theme of many researchers . From a different angle, a psychiatrist who has been listening to people's worries about 'wanting to be happy' for 30 years talks about 'things that keep people away from happiness.'

Life Lessons From a Psychiatrist Who's Been Listening to People's Problems For Decades
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In the 2012 edition of the World Happiness Report, a happiness survey published by the United Nations Sustainable Development Solutions Network, 'You have the freedom of choice to feel that you are happier than others.' It plays an important role. ' Gordon Livingston, a psychiatrist who has been listening to patients' worries for 30 years, is also mentioned in his book, author of ' Giving Up, Don't Give Up-Thirty Life-Changing Words'. ..



Socrates left the phrase 'The unexamined life is not worth living,' but Livingston said that while working as a psychiatrist, many 'automate' life. He explains that he is alive and is sending 'every day that repeats what went wrong yesterday.' Many people who complain of misery have stopped thinking about how their actions affect themselves, those around them, and their well-being. Once you get into such a daily cycle, it's hard to get out and it's difficult to live a meaningful life.

There are effective treatments for the symptoms of depression, but drugs do not bring happiness, Livingston said. This is because happiness is not 'there is no despair', but the positive perception of life as 'there is meaning and joy in one's life.'

Research results that the key to happiness and health is to feel that 'my life is meaningful' --GIGAZINE

'We usually receive what we expect, not what we deserve,' Livingston said. Many people who talk about misery understand how to improve their mood. They do not practice meaningful daily habits not because they 'ignore their value' but because they 'have no motivation to put them into practice.' Livingston understands from his own experience that these people are 'waiting' to feel better.

Based on this, Mr. Livingston cites 'work to be done,' 'loved one,' and 'enjoyment' as the three elements of happiness. It's hard to feel unhappy when you do meaningful work, maintain relationships, and have fun promises. 'Work' at this time includes all actions that give meaning to oneself, regardless of whether they are paid or free of charge.

'A characteristic of people with emotional difficulties is that they have lost or believed they have lost the ability to make choices that make themselves happy,' said Livingston. But whether you live a happy life or not, you have to take responsibility for your life. Many are stuck in fear of getting out of the 'safe zone' they are in. Of course, it takes a lot of time to learn new things, change old behaviors, build new relationships, and so on, to create happiness. Overcoming fear will be the only antidote to manage unwanted misfortunes.

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'The safest prison is the one we make for ourselves.' 'When I ask people who hate risk,'What's the biggest chance you've ever taken action?', They themselves I realize that I have taken the safest choices in my life. '' What you are afraid of, unfulfilled dreams, limit you now and your future. Fear and anxiety are us. Much of our life is made with promises that we have not fulfilled to ourselves. Many people have the goal of studying, succeeding at work, falling in love, and so on. What we have. It's not unclear how we reach our goals, but we often don't do what we need to be who we want to be, 'Livingston said.

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