In fact it may be narcissism that you think that you are self-respecting

byLauren Anderson

In past psychology research and media, "narcissism" has often been treated like "irritated pride". However, as research has advanced in recent years, it has become clear that there seems to be a big gap between narcissism and self-esteem. How self-esteem is different from narcissism, how to improve self-esteem, etc. are psychologistsScott Barry KaufmanIt is described by Mr..

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◆ The beginnings of narcissism and self-esteem
Both narcissism and pride are said to develop from about the age of seven. The age of seven years begins to recognize how you are seen by others, compare yourself with others and say "I am a loser," "I am worthy," "I am special" etc. I will evaluate. However, while self-esteem is lowest in childhood and grows with growth, narcissism is gradually lowered high in childhood. As human beings grow, self-esteem and narcissism draw a graph that is completely opposite.

Self-esteem is also greatly influenced by narcissism's parenting style. A parent of a child with a high level of narcissism says that he / she overestimates children's knowledge to people, such as "This child knows everything about mathematics", overestimates IQ, overestimates performance, I admire it. Moreover, there is also a tendency to give a unique name so that it stands out even among a large number of children. In order for children to unwittingly internalize their parents' behavior, eventually they create a result that parents decide their attitudes towards others.

On the other hand, parents of children with a high level of self-esteem have contact with their children with graciousness and appreciation. Parents treat children as important, so that children can unconsciously internalize the message "I am important" and develop a healthy self-esteem.

◆ Self-esteem and narcissism, if they are high, what kind of person will you be?

bySeptian simon

How to Measure Self-Esteem In "Self-Esteem Scale (RSES)" "I am mostly satisfied with myself" "I have many good qualities" "I have the same abilities as others" Items are evaluated, not self-importance feeling, self-importance feeling etc. but "It is better than others" is evaluated. In other words, self-esteem is not a "superior to others" but a feeling centered on "what you are satisfied with yourself".

On the other hand, narcissism is generally characterized by characteristics such as arrogance, superiority, vanity, exploitative, self-revealing habit, constantly seeking praise. Narcissism has a part related to self-esteem, but the feeling is "It is superior to others" mainly. Therefore, it can be self-aware that "I am superior to others, but I am not worth" or self-recognition that "I am not better than others but I am satisfied".

Similarities and differences between narcissism and self-esteem were investigatedStudy published in July 2017, Although both have similarities in having relevance, aggressiveness, motivation for positive emotions, remuneration etc. in common, it turned out that 63% of the evaluation items have different ways of doing otherwise .

In this survey, self-esteem has a high relevance to honesty and perseverance compared to narcissism, while narcissism has been shown to be related to "sympathetic" items in a bad meaning of "target hostility to others" . Although relevance was also recognized between self-esteem and synchronicity, the relevance was small and it was positive.

In the interpersonal relationship function, narcissism and self-esteem differ in 75% of the measurement items, and narcissism is "expressing anger", "yelling at a loud voice", "threatening", "physical aggression" We saw hostility expression and relevance. Also, there are many problems in human relationships, there is also a tendency to try to gain resources disproportionately. There was no connection between these features and self-esteem.


At this time, people with a high level of narcissism regard themselves as the center of a social network, and see others as self-narcissistic, nervous, unpleasant and depressive, so competition compared to people with high self-esteem And tend to be involved in controversy. But people with high self-esteem are more likely to feel intimacy with others in social networks, they are attracting others in the network · high leadership · high position · intellectual · feeling good · kind about.

And, narcissism is often associated with pathology items such as alcohol dependence and antisocial behavior / aggression. EspeciallyActing personality disorderIt is said that there is a strong connection with. Whereas self-esteem is related to the desire "I want to connect intimately and deeply with other people", narcissism stands in the point of "I want to rule others" "I want to obtain better results than others" is.

◆ Should self-esteem be increased without limit?
However, the view that "raising self-esteem can solve all problems in daily life" is irritating. A socio-psychologist Roy Bowmister and others team reevaluated the research on self-esteem that was announced in the past, and it turned out that the influence of self-esteem is not spreading correctly in general.

Self-esteem has a strong relationship with happiness and initiatives, but the evidence that correlation is different from causal relationships and that profit is actually born by raising self-esteem has not been found from the survey. And by raising the self-esteem of the child, there is little possibility of making it narcissist, by making the child feel "valuable to yourself" "respectfully paid" to the child without comparing with others, It seems that children feel a sense of well-being and do not take the view that they are superior to others. In other words, self-esteem is not all solutions, but you do not have to worry too much, "Do not make a child narcissist trying to raise self-esteem."

byWayne Dery

Self-esteem is like a vitamin, it is essential for a healthy mental / physical condition but it is not something that can not afford the merit infinitely by keeping ingesting after meeting the standard value. In order for people to continue growing and learning, it is necessary not to pay more attention to their own value after recognizing their own value but to challenge tasks, value-added activities, promotion of human relations, etc. It is.

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