Scientifically shown best way to reconcile with a lover or a companion

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"Is there a difference between men and women in the approach to settlement that takes after the fight?" "And the point that the approach taken by the partner really has effect on him?", Professor of psychology at Bucknell University Mr. T. Joel Weid and Mr. Justin Mozirski, professor of psychology at the University of Auckland. As a result, of course, although there is an "effective approach" that is common to both men and women, we found that there is an approach with different efficacy depending on gender. Due to the difference in perception that "I want you to do this on your own," it is clear that the possibility of doing an ineffective settlement approach to the partner has been revealed.

Sex Differences in Reconciliation Behavior After Romantic Conflict | Springer Link
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40806-017-0108-6

How to Reconcile with a Romantic Partner - Scientific American
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-to-reconcile-with-a-romantic-partner/

Mr. Wade's research team first asked 74 male and female subjects about the approach of settlement that the subject himself or a friend of the same sex had taken over the partner so far. After that, researchers categorized the answers to 200 in 21 categories such as "apologies", "gifts", "sexual entertainment". As a result, approaches often taken by women include 'apologies',' communication ',' gifts', 'show love' and 'sexual entertainment', while men take approaches as' gifts' 'apologies'' Sexual entertainment "and other things in common with women," including time together "," nice acts "and so on. Women often communicate and show affection, while men found that men often send gifts or do something witty.

bySean Molin

But if men and women tend to take different approaches, will reactions of heterosexual partners when receiving this approach be different as well? As a result, researchers conducted the following investigation. Mr. Wade et al.'s team asked 164 subjects of both sexes to evaluate 21 categories used in the first survey, "How effective would your partner do its approach" It was.

Then, both men and women rated highly about "to take communication", "to apologize", "to forgive others", "spend time together" and "compromise", "ignore," "avoid partners," "drink alcohol" We gave a low evaluation for the category "give up". Meanwhile, men highly appreciate "seductive acts" and "sexual entertainment" more than women, and women feel emotional expression of opponents such as "spend time together", "apologize", "cry" And tendency to evaluate higher than men about showing weakness. Researchers can not receive more emotional support from female partners because they feel that men touches tears and that women touched the feelings of men and they are willing to take responsibility for fighting I guess it.

Based on these findings, Scientific American notes that men who fight with female partners do not give jewelry and flowers as a stamp of apology, apologize faithfully, and do not be ashamed to show tears. In the case of a woman, starting with an apology, showing affection, showing sexual intimacy, and doing savvy acts will make reconciliation faster.

bySean Dunn

The results of this study, however, showed how the sexual orientation of the subjects as a subject affected the settlement behavior and whether the same tendency could be seen regardless of age in subjects of a wide range of age ranging from 18 to 61 years old It has not been examined. It is believed that further details such as this will become apparent in future research.