Possible conflicting emotions such as affirmation or denial of marriage partner may hurt your health

BySean Molin

People get marriedYou can live longer and healthier than unmarried peopleIt is said that, in order to gain health benefits through new research, it is not only good to get married but also that "the quality of marriage" is becoming more important. The New York Times summarizes what the quality of marriage is, what couple can live healthily, and what kind of marital relationship hurts health.

The Ambivalent Marriage Takes a Toll on Health - The New York Times
http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/10/26/the-ambivalent-marriage-takes-a-toll-on-health/

It is operated by Jesus Christ Church of the Latter-day Saints of Utah, USABrigham Young UniversityHe is conducting research on the health benefits that marriage brings and has also revealed that "couples who married based on solid ideas can live longer healthier than unmarried couples" to date It was. Then is it just fine to marry? As a result, we further investigated and investigated newly "how each other's support level, warmth, domination of relations affect the health of the couple".

"Previous research has measured the relationship between married couple superficially", said Wendy C. Birmingham, who led the research. Professor Birmingham thinks that existing research has been conducting a survey using a one-dimensional question, but then the actual relationship can not be measured.

Based on the above, in the latest study, we examined 94 negative couples and positive influences each other, targeting 94 couples between heterosexual residents living in Salt Lake City. The couple who became subjects ranged from "people who married one year" to those who said "married life is 41 years", and about 15% of the total married for over 10 years. The average marriage years as a whole was 5.4 years. Also, both couple were working together, there were no children, living with others, etc. Only the effects of purely couples' couple were examined.

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Each of the subjects, men and women, each said "whether spouses are positive when they need advice or understanding" or "whether spouses are positive when they need advice or understanding" On the contrary, I was also asked "Do you negatively oppose your opponent on a daily basis?" As a result, 23% of the couple overall were "supportive couples" who were not negative to their opponents, while the remaining 77% were dualistic mixed positive and negative feelings To the conclusion that you have emotions.

Next, researchers monitored the subjects' men's and women's blood pressure from morning till evening. The timing to measure blood pressure is random at 2 hours per hour, what the subject is doing at that time, what kind of feelings the feeling to the spouse was recorded, accurately recorded using the diary It was.

Then, the couple who are intermingled with each other with negative / positive emotions consistently have blood pressure higher than the reference value, and there is no tendency to "become more health by marriage" Turned out. It seems that marital relationship is complicated and that it can not be said that marriage can bring health to people.

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Of course, this experiment is targeting a couple among heterosexuals, mainly white people, living in the same city, and the result is limited. Also, hypertension is not directly linked to "unhealthy".

However, there are other research results similar to Brigham Young University. In the research of Utah University, it is known that the dominant relationship between married couple and lack of warmth burden the heart as much as smoking. Also, in Ohio state university research, it is said that couples who are in hostile relations and controversy have a result that wound repair is slower than couple not doing so.

Some researchers say, "It is totally different in meaning that there is always a reasonable support and there is no time to support. If someone says" I do not support myself ", people Can adapt to that condition, but if the attitude of the partner is changing from time to time, the situation is more difficult. "

ByD. Sarle

However, it is said that it will not panic, just because the result of this research became clear. Professor James A. Corn of the University of Virginia commented, "Marriage is like stock market, there are strong markets and weak markets in the short term, but in the long term most investments will be successful." I said.

Whether you are a couple whose spouse or spouse is mixed with negative / positive emotions can be examined by answering the questions on the following page.

Do You Have an Ambivalent Marriage? - The New York Times
http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2015/10/23/health/ambivalence-test-quiz.html

The questions are as follows.

01: When you are thrilled, happy, or confident in something, how much is your spouse positive?

02: When you feel excited, happy, or have confidence in something, how negatively is your spouse?

03: How positive is your spouse in daily communication, conversation and activities?

04: How negative is the spouse in daily communication, conversation and activities?

05: How affirm is your spouse when you need advice, understanding, kindness?

06: How much negative is your spouse when you need advice, understanding, kindness?

07: How is your reaction positive if your spouses are very thrilled, feel happy, have confidence in something?

08: How severe is your reaction when your spouses are very excited, feel happy, have confidence in something?

If you answer the question with a six-step checkmark, the button "SEE MY SCORE" appears, so if you press this you can see the result.