How does 'one night's only affair' lead to the ideal marriage?

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National research conducted in the USA "Singles in America(Single Americans) ", a lot of people confess that they performed" casual sex (one night's only affair) "every year, but 27% of those who performed casual sex in 2014, Has reached a partnership with the partner. Engage in this researchHelen FisherExplains the effects such as the rise in marriage rate created by Dr. "casual sex" acts.

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Dr. Helen Fischer writes "Why do people fall in love? - Brain science of love, affection and libidoBiological anthropologist known for. Dr. Fischer has been the world's largest romance · marriage matching site "Match.com (match · dot com)"We are engaged in national research led by.

According to the data of the study, more than 54% of adult singles in the United States believe "love at first sight" and 89% think "I can live an eternal marriage life with the same person". In other words, many Americans believe that events like romance movies can happen to anyone, but in contrast to this, 43% - 50% of American couple have "divorced" 67% of cohabiting couples are feeling social, legal, emotional and economic "fear" about divorce. "Singles in America" ​​which draws such a conclusion does not take statistics with only data of Match.com but also data of the annual US census and answer data obtained by asking questions etc. It is reflected in.

It seems that the ideals and reality of Americans differ, but Dr. Fischer recommends "casual sex" as a means to break through this situation. Of course, it is the first time that two people who meet by chance meet one night over the same day because risks such as venereal infection · unwanted pregnancy · mental trauma, etc. occur, so when you have a relationship it is best to secure safety . However, 66% of American single males and 50% of single females in 2014 reported casual sex experiences, more than half of men and women have "overnight affairs" every year, 5 It is said that the annual change has not changed much.

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"Together with strangers overnight" is often seen as a moderate act, but as Singles in America data shows, about 30% of those who had overnight relationships are "lover relationship It has evolved into a. As an effect of casual sex, Dr. Fischer tells us that "even if you have a relationship as a convenient partner to each other, stimulation to genitalia will activate dopamine, potentially increasing the likelihood of falling in love" It is secreted when you feel sexual cumOxytocinYaVasopressinIt is said that the neurotransmitter such as neurotransmitter such as linking affection, it seems that there is plenty of love and affection for overnight partners by casual sex as a biological effect.

Also, after developing into a lover relationship, he is a colleague of Dr. FischerBianca AcevedoDr.FMRIWe are doing research to measure nerve action of lover and couple using. A couple within 8 months of being in love relationship and a couple between 8 and 17 months measured the nerve action in the brain by fMRI when seeing a photograph of a lover, and the couple within 8 months are in the field of "love" On the other hand, a couple between 8 and 17 months has activated areas related to affection. In other words, the feelings embraced by your partner will change to affection so that the time you spend together will be longer.

There are individual differences as to how much that love lasts, but in the 50s to 60s who assert that "I am still crazy about my spouse", 17 couples of married couples with an average marriage period of 21 years are gathered and the brains When I scanned, my brain activity showed that my husband and I were in love with each other. Although "casual sex" may not be the optimal way to find a lifetime companion, by proactively searching for an opponent, finding a lifelong companion to linger for a long time like a couple of 17 couples It may be possible to do.

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