'You're talented' is NG, when praising children, you should recognize effort, not talent



There should be many people who use compliments such as 'You are talented' and 'You are a genius!' When children leave good results in studies and sports. However, Oxford Learning, an educational organization, argues that in order to continue to develop children's abilities, efforts should be recognized rather than praised for talent.

Praising Children for Effort Rather Than Ability - Oxford Learning
https://www.oxfordlearning.com/praising-children-for-effort-rather-than-ability/



When your child succeeds, if you use praise such as 'you're talented', your child may stop trying because he believes he can achieve success without trying. Also, if you praise a child's talent excessively, the child will have a fear of failure, and when he fails, he will feel helpless and may not be able to find a solution.

In a study conducted on children in the fifth grade of elementary school, as a result of asking the 'group praised for talent' and the 'group praised for effort' to answer questions that were difficult to deal with, the 'group praised for talent' In contrast to the pessimistic feelings about the fact that they could not solve the problem, many positive reactions were observed in the ``group praised for their efforts'', such as ``I want to take the problem home and find a way to solve it.'' Ta. This study also shows the importance of rewarding effort.



Oxford Learning raises two important points when praising effort.

◆ Praise the process, not the result
When praising effort, it is important to praise the concentration and the strategies the child used to achieve success. For example, it is effective to give praise such as, 'It's because you practiced every day' or 'It's because you made a review notebook.'

◆ give specific praise
Children are sensitive to whether or not they actually saw their effort when praised. For this reason, children feel that they are not recognized when they give abstract praise such as 'You succeeded because you worked hard'. In order to praise a child's effort and lead to future success, it is important to praise the content of the effort as specifically as possible.



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