A way that does not become "a person who is always irritated and angry"

ByNiklas Hellerstedt

"People who are always angry" are often seen as depressive types, and at least they can not be regarded as optimistic people. However, in fact, the cause that "always being angry" is not pessimistic, so what is the cause of irritation always? How can I be gentle without anger? That is, it is clearly explained in a three minute movie.

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"Fred" appearing in the movie often explodes anger. Fred has a wife for 15 years after getting married, but often to his wife, say "Do not disturb me while reading a newspaper."


But Fred's wife sometimes feels this banning stuff somewhat.


And, feeling casually against Fred reading a newspaper, I talked to "Fred, when should dinner start cooking?"


Fred gets spoken to be angry, screaming ...


It will be like a monster.


Because Fred always holds "hope" at the bottom of my heart.


Also, Fred often loses small items. The day the car's key can not be found ......


"I wonder where the key went on!" I shouted at my family and angered my anger.


Because Fred holds hope in the depths of his heart and wishes that "I want you to have what you need always".


Then Fred heads to the airport.


Then you know that the plane you should board is 4 hours behind. This is a case that most people become depressed or angry, but in the case of Fred, it was a premium member wishing for a good service.


Fred jerks his thoughts to the young woman sitting at the check-in desk and shouts.


Fred was furious because it also hoped that "I would like to operate the plane as desired".


What is common to the reasons Fred's anger is that he trusted "a world that he should have" in a stubborn and dedicated way. He understands that the partner understands himself, the key is always in the place to be, the airplane operates as a movie on time as desired.


Of course, such a world does not exist, so Fred 's hope has not been granted for decades, but Fred' s hope did not become smaller. And whenever hope got stuck, Fred cried out.


Fred can not remove the "cause" that makes you frustrate.


However, if you understand why you are irritated by these "causes", you can eliminate irritation without removing the cause.


If he can accept the fact that there is sad though "partners do not understand themselves", "there is something in trouble that things are gone", "travel delay is inherent", ....


And if you realize that life is a series of disappointment, misunderstanding, sorrow, bad luck ... ....


If Fred can better handle his "hope", he should become angered and accept reality.


To many people, as in Fred, I feel a lot of anger. But anger never lasts forever. Anger is the result of a sudden betrayal of expectations.


In order to be a reliable and gentle person, we need to suppress optimism that "life always works." Pessimism is the cure for anger.