What does a psychiatrist who has listened to the voices of 'unhappy people' for 30 years learn about 'keeping people away from happiness'?


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The question ``What makes people happy?'' is the theme of many researchers . From a different angle, a psychiatrist who has been listening to the worries of people who want to be happy for 30 years talks about ``things that keep people from being happy.''

Life Lessons From a Psychiatrist Who's Been Listening to People's Problems For Decades
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The 2012 edition of the World Happiness Report , a happiness survey published by the United Nations Sustainable Development Solutions Network, states that ``To feel that you are happier than others, you need to have freedom of choice.'' It was shown that they play an important role. Psychiatrist Gordon Livingstone, author of `` What to Give Up and What Not to Do - 30 Words That Will Change Your Life '' and who spent 30 years listening to the concerns of his patients, also mentions this in his book. .



Socrates left behind the words, ``The unexamined life is not worth living,'' but in his work as a psychiatrist, Mr. Livingston realized that many people's lives are ``automated.'' He explains that he lives a 'day-to-day life repeating what didn't go well yesterday.' Many people who complain of unhappiness have stopped thinking about how their actions affect themselves, the people around them, and their own happiness. Once you get into this daily cycle, it becomes difficult to get out of it, which makes it difficult to lead a meaningful life.

Although effective treatments exist for symptoms of depression, Livingston says drugs don't make people happy. This is because happiness is not the absence of despair, but a positive view of life, believing that there is meaning and joy in one's life.

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'We usually receive what we expect, not what we deserve,' Livingston said. Many people who talk about their misfortunes do not know how to feel better. The reason they don't engage in meaningful daily habits is not because they 'ignore their value,' but because they 'don't have the motivation to put them into practice.' Livingston knows from his own experience that these people are 'waiting' to feel better.

Based on this, Mr. Livingston identifies three elements of happiness: ``work to do,'' ``people you love,'' and ``things to look forward to.'' It's hard to feel unhappy when you have meaningful work, relationships, and exciting commitments. In this case, 'work' includes any action that gives meaning to oneself, regardless of whether it is paid or unpaid.

And, 'a characteristic of people with emotional difficulties is that they have lost, or believe they have lost, the ability to make choices that make them happy,' Livingston said. However, whether one is living a happy life or not, one must take responsibility for one's own life. Many people are stuck because they are afraid to step outside of their current “safety zone.” Of course, creating happiness takes a lot of time, including learning new things, changing old behaviors, and building new relationships. Overcoming fear is the only antidote to unwanted misfortune.

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'The safest prisons are the ones we build for ourselves.' 'When I ask risk-averse people, 'What's the best chance you've ever taken action?' Realize that you have made safe choices in your life.'' ``The things you fear, the unfulfilled dreams, limit you and your future. Many of our lives are made up of promises we make to ourselves that we don't keep. Goals like studying, succeeding at work, falling in love... What we have, and the means to achieve our goals are not obscure, but we often do not do what it takes to become who we want to be,” Livingstone said.

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